The blogUnscrewing Motherhood: Tools for Emotional Balance in Pregnancy and Beyond
This blog gathers gentle, in-depth articles on birth trauma, pregnancy after loss, tokophobia and perinatal anxiety. You’ll find practical tools from CBT, compassion-focused and trauma-informed approaches, to help you understand what you’re feeling and how to cope day to day.
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Too Scared to Try for Another Baby After Miscarriage: When Fear Stops You Trying Again
You want another baby. You can feel how much you want it. And you still can't make yourself try.
Maybe you've been "trying" for months but keep finding reasons. Maybe your partner is ready and you're not, and the gap between you is starting to hurt. Maybe you suspect you're sabotaging it on purpose and don't know how to stop.
Here's what I need you to know: this isn't a failure of desire. It's a trauma response — your body protecting you from going through the worst thing again. And it can be worked with. You don't have to wait until you feel ready to reach out. For a lot of women, reaching out is what allows ready to finally arrive.
3 Ways to Cope With Fear of Giving Birth After a Traumatic First Birth
Three evidence-based ways to cope with fear of giving birth after traumatic birth: focus on the facts of your current pregnancy, use a rings of control exercise to separate what you can and can't influence, and identify specifically what your fear is connected to. If the fear is constant, overwhelming, or connected to flashbacks from your previous birth, trauma-focused therapy is likely what you need.
Too Terrified to Give Birth Again? Understanding Secondary Tokophobia After Traumatic Birth
Pregnant after traumatic birth? Secondary tokophobia affects 14% of mothers. Learn how trauma-focused therapy can help you prepare for birth with confidence, not fear.
