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This blog gathers gentle, in-depth articles on birth trauma, pregnancy after loss, tokophobia and perinatal anxiety. You’ll find practical tools from CBT, compassion-focused and trauma-informed approaches, to help you understand what you’re feeling and how to cope day to day.
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Traumatic Birth Recovery: 8 Signs You’re Still Healing (Even Years Later)
Your baby is healthy. Life resumed. People stopped asking. And yet something still feels unfinished. Not every day — some days are completely fine. But then something small happens and your body reacts in a way that feels completely out of proportion to what's actually in front of you.
If you've been wondering whether you're still affected by a traumatic birth — even though it was years ago, even though everyone else seems to have moved on — this article is for you. Eight signs your nervous system is still recovering, from a perinatal trauma therapist who has worked with women at every stage of this journey.
7 Things I Tell My Clients Who Are Pregnant Again After Miscarriage — That They Can’t Find on Google
Pregnant again after miscarriage? These 7 insights from a therapist working with pregnancy after loss go beyond generic advice — and finally make you feel seen.
Do I Have Birth Trauma? Signs You're Still Affected (Even If No One Noticed)
You walked out of the hospital with your baby in your arms and everyone said congratulations. But something doesn't feel right. Maybe you've been telling yourself you're being dramatic. Maybe you've been saying "it was fine" for so long you've almost convinced yourself. Maybe you genuinely don't know if what happened counts.
If you're asking the question — there's usually a reason. This article is for the woman whose birth looked fine from the outside, who's been told to just be grateful, and who still can't quite shake the feeling that something happened to her that nobody else seems to see.
Miscarriage Grief and Trauma: Why It Stays — And What Actually Helps
Coping with Miscarriage Grief and Trauma: A Therapist's Guide to Healing
Miscarriage isn’t just a medical event — it’s a grief that often goes unseen, and a trauma that can quietly reshape how you feel about your body, your future, and even yourself. If you've felt isolated, dismissed, or like your loss "doesn’t count," this post is for you. I explore why miscarriage grief matters deeply — and how therapy can help you hold what feels too heavy to carry alone.
Guest Post: Navigating Postpartum Anxiety After Loss
Bringing your baby home after an anxiety-filled pregnancy should feel like a relief — but what if the worry doesn't go away? Postpartum anxiety after loss is more common than you might think. Learn how to navigate this journey with compassion, practical tips, and the reassurance that you're not alone.
Still Struggling After a Traumatic Birth? Why It Doesn't Just Get Better - And What Actually Helps
How to heal from traumatic birth: A gentle guide to recovery
A traumatic birth can leave lasting emotional and physical echoes - even if your baby is healthy. This gentle, therapist-written guide explains why you still feel stuck, how birth trauma and PTSD affects the nervous system, and what real healing looks like (with or without therapy).
Scan Anxiety After Miscarriage: Why You Dread Every Scan — And What Actually Helps
You're in the car outside the clinic. The appointment isn't for 45 minutes, but you couldn't stay home a second longer. Your hands are tight on the wheel, your heart is going, and the thoughts are already circling — what if it's like last time, what if there's no heartbeat.
Everyone's told you to breathe, think positive, relax. And you've wondered what's wrong with you that none of it works.
Nothing is wrong with you. A scan after loss isn't nerves — it's a trauma trigger. Your body remembers the last time, when the news was devastating. Breathing tips can't reach that. But something can — and the next scan doesn't have to be a replay of the worst one.
Anxiety in Pregnancy After Miscarriage: CBT & EMDR Therapy That Actually Helps.
How to Cope with Anxiety in Pregnancy After Miscarriage?
Pregnancy after miscarriage brings more than hope - it often brings anxiety that lingers quietly in the background of every scan, symptom, and silence. If you're finding it hard to relax into this pregnancy, you're not alone. This article explores why anxiety after loss is so common, how it shows up in everyday moments, and how EMDR and CBT therapy can offer gentle, practical support without minimising your pain or pushing forced positivity.
Navigating the Emotional Turbulence of Pregnancy After Loss: Coping Strategies and Support
Pregnancy after a loss is often an emotional whirlwind, filled with fear, anxiety, and grief. Unlike a first pregnancy, where joy and excitement might dominate, Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) is marked by a constant undercurrent of worry and a profound sense of vulnerability. In this post, I explore the unique challenges that come with PAL, from the shifting beliefs about pregnancy and parenthood to the emotional toll of navigating antenatal appointments that once brought joy but now carry the weight of past trauma.
